When making love to a woman, start first with her eyes. Notice how they sparkle with excitement, the way little flecks of color reflect meaning as she looks back at you. See there her mind longing to reach you, to be touched in a place held back for an average embrace. When making love to a woman, start first with her eyes, and you will find the true woman, whether heavy or slight, tall or short, large breasted or small.

From her eyes, drop down the length of her nose. Trace the outline of her lips. Let her kiss your fingertips softly in return. Gently stroke her cheek, and do not lose your gaze upon her eyes. Ignite the energy, charged and excited, as electrons race through her body. Then hold her chin in the cusp of your palm, and place your lips upon her forehead, on the space between her eyes, and on the parting of her mouth. Witness all the years she has worn, the lines around her eyes, the worry and the laughter, the wear and tear of life. This is all that she has to offer you.

When you have had a good long look, notice next the tender way her neckline curves, the pulsing of her life through artery from heart to mind. See here her vulnerability. Breathe your heated breath upon her skin. Feel the way her defenses fall away, the way she finds your ear. Hear the soft moan that rumbles like distant summer thunder clouds.

Do not trespass until you know her story. Find the outline of her life in the way her body yields, in the layers and the stretches, in the scars and the pain. Only when you understand her joys and sorrows, her dreams and disappointments, can you honestly make love to a woman. If you still need to learn these things, stop, have some dinner. Wait for another day.

Written by (pseudonym) Caroline Wolfe

Do you love her for her, or is she only 
One of your options, to someday be discarded
(Are you playing with her feelings?)
Are you (frantically) grappling for love, affection
Some respect, admiration, some reason for self-worth
When you find another, who offers better promises
A greater sense of security, will you banish her
When will you stop measuring your worth by
The desire and acceptance from the opposite sex

Stop Violence in the Home

"Gender-based violence is perhaps the most shameful human rights violation. As long as it continues, we cannot claim to be making real progress towards equality, development and peace" (Kofi Annan, United Nations Secretary General)


In Indonesia, 16709 cases of domestic violence have been reported in 2006 alone. Considering the culture in this country, where women and children are taught to be reserved, you can perhaps imagine how many more cases were never reported.


PUNDI PEREMPUAN
Yayasan Sosial Indonesia untuk Kemanusiaan
No Rekening: 025-01-00098-00-3
Bank Niaga Cabang Jatinegara - Jakarta Timur


The funds collected will be distributed to more than 20 Women Crisis Centers around Indonesia, including the ones in Sumatra and Nusa Tenggara Timur.


More info:
www.ysik.org
www.komnasperempuan.or.id
komnasperempuan@cbn.net.id


Show some compassion.

The Eternal Sunshine

Waking up to the familiar pain
of Absence, and Loss
Piercing through your chest

You refuse to rise
Duties and pleasures
No longer matter much

Close your eyes
Turn back Time
Turn back Time

Look into his eyes
See that smile
Listen

Feel his palm, remember
The time you first held hands
That leap in your heart

Recall his scent
During the restless nights it
Calmed and lulled you to sleep

The miracle of Creation
where the then bony shoulders
Seemed too enticing to resist

Bring to life the places you know
The sights, scents and sounds
And then him, and you

Your breaths become deep and steady
Tears roll down your cheeks, and
You smile, and open your eyes

You will face the day