Facebook wall posts are overrated.
Mature, intimate lovers and (very) close friends hardly 'wall' each other. Married couples especially don't use it to communicate, unless they want to be silly and romantic on occasion, maybe.
I myself seldom wall the people I cherish the most. The intimacy of a private message is far more appealing. Even better: a face to face get-together, or a phone call. This may reflect a personal preference though. I prefer sharing with my loved one(s) without having to advertise our sphere to the rest of the world.
Facebook walls, then, are generally for friendly greetings, harmless discussions, and among younger users: territorial marking. It is interesting to observe how the latter works: a wall post from an opposite sex would soon be followed a barrage from other competitors - all of whom boast a 'special' connection with the wall owner. I always find this kind of posts comical and therefore amusing.
Still, such territorial marking does cause enough insecurity that many are urged to regularly check on their inamoratas' wall posts. Sadly, the wall offers no reliable information on the inamorata's true romantic interest.
So if you really want to secure a romantic position: go ahead, ask, and work your way there. Be proactive.
Mature, intimate lovers and (very) close friends hardly 'wall' each other. Married couples especially don't use it to communicate, unless they want to be silly and romantic on occasion, maybe.
I myself seldom wall the people I cherish the most. The intimacy of a private message is far more appealing. Even better: a face to face get-together, or a phone call. This may reflect a personal preference though. I prefer sharing with my loved one(s) without having to advertise our sphere to the rest of the world.
Facebook walls, then, are generally for friendly greetings, harmless discussions, and among younger users: territorial marking. It is interesting to observe how the latter works: a wall post from an opposite sex would soon be followed a barrage from other competitors - all of whom boast a 'special' connection with the wall owner. I always find this kind of posts comical and therefore amusing.
Still, such territorial marking does cause enough insecurity that many are urged to regularly check on their inamoratas' wall posts. Sadly, the wall offers no reliable information on the inamorata's true romantic interest.
So if you really want to secure a romantic position: go ahead, ask, and work your way there. Be proactive.
3 comments:
OMG this post is soooo true ci!
it is true that by being on facebook and establishing a solid form of existence within its network, we are allowing our private spheres to shrink. things that used to be private and personal are now publicized for all to see; every slight change in various forms of emotions, minor details of life, day-to-day activities, holiday trips and destinations, AND even relationship statuses are now open for public.
and about facebook wallposts, i can't deny that it is superficial. i've had my own share of personal experiences to be able to conclude that people who talk to each other through facebook wallposts don't really address each other in real life. some of them do, but being facebook friends doesn't guarantee that real-life relationships will automatically be established.
facebook doesn't make people more sociable. it makes them more socially withdrawn, selective, and awfully insecure. =(
it's overwhelming, really. how the internet has shaped, and altered, the social lives of modern generations.
and oh yeah, for the record, despite all the bitching about its superficiality and privacy violation issues aplenty, i am a shameless facebook stalker myself. LOL. =D
but no, that doesn't mean that i am now socially incompetent or anything; i just find it addictive. hahahahaha. XD
and yes, i don't write on the walls of my favorite people.
walling won't nag them as much; i prefer more direct, more-apparent-and-violent actions of disturbance. XD
Aw, JJ, isn't you what I love about you.. :D
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